So, during brunch yesterday with Walker, somehow we stumbled on the conversation about who we like or more towards who I like. Even though I'm pretty positive that Walker wasn't/isn't the best guy to be getting relationship advise from he is well a guy so I kept it simple, didn't mention any names, and well asked him solely because he is a GUY! I asked and he listened, thought and responded. My questions really were simple like "If a girl liked you would you want her to tell you?" or "Do guys want as to be a "chase" or simply be tangable?" even "If a girl were to tell you she likes you how would you want her to tell you?". Simple as that, he answered all of my questions, (don't worry he would respond by saying Adam's name, so he knew who I was refering to. He wasn't thinking I like him(Walker). Anyways something that he said really struck me as good advise, "...If he isn't initiating anything he's probably not interested... although he could be shy around girls he likes even though he doesn't seem like he would be, but he easily could be shy". Walker also quoted the speaker from chapel on Friday she said, "You are significant with or without another." Her whole reason for saying that is because in this world, and in our culture it is very uncommon to not be engaged or married, but if your purpose for engagement and marriage is to have a social status then you are in it for all the wrong reasons. Love is to special and important to waste for status. So, "You are significant with or without another" really puts in perspective on how God looks at us with or without a significant other.
Today, being a typical Monday, I went to class, walked to chapel, saw Adam and talked with him for awhile, later in the day get text saying "it's One Tree Hill night and I still have your plate come over" so around 9 go to Adam & Karl's apartment watch OTH and hangout. So, taking Walker's advise from yesterday, that Adam's probably just not interested, this made me utterly confused! Adam came and sat down super close to me, was totally flirting with me, he was even interested in what's been going on in my life. AGH! Right when I was trying not to like him, right when I was set on nothing happening between us, right when I was just going to be friends; he starts the whole process over again.
I really wish I can say that I'm over him, I wish that I can only see him as a friend, but why is it right when I decide that it just isn't meant to be he starts to initiate things?
I'm back to where I started CONFUSED. I really think that he's not worth all of this thought and confusion, this game, and this frustration.
Hummm... Maybe try this angle, have a crush/be interested but pursue a friendship with him. Don't call him all the time, but check in every once in awhile. And don't be available everytime he wants to hang out. When you talk on the phone, you end the conversation after a set time, say 5 minutes. Keep him wondering what else you're doing that is more important than him.
ReplyDeleteI know, this coming from the gal has hasn't dated in forever. Geez!
I agree with the pursuing a friendship. I think you should be straight forward and tell him that he keeps sending you mixed signals, and that if he wants to be more than friends great, if not that's great too, just stop going back and forth between flirting and not.
ReplyDeleteI think you should listen to theto Well Podcasts about Song of Solomon. You'll have to scroll all the way down then click older until you get to the last page. I got to the honeymoon and stopped, cause school started. But everything before that is really good!
There is totally nothing wrong with having a "Friendship relationship" and letting it deveolp on its own that is usually the most successful method. Dont write him off...just force him to be the initiator.
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